Topic: Overcoming Family Pressure
“Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature?” - Matthew 6:27-
Having a family to watch your back and show you much care and love is a wonderful experience. It gives you a feeling that you are not alone and that you can always have people to fall back on in any case that you need such help. At the same time though, some family members may make it a point of duty to be a pain in the neck.
They have a special way of driving home what they want; making you feel so pressured as to do what they demand. Have you ever been confronted with quizzical looks asking you questions like, “When is it happening?” “When are we meeting him or her?” “All your mates have done this and that, what is happening to you?” The list goes on and on. These are questions that may make you want to rush into something you are not prepared for, or do what even you, don’t expect yourself to do.
First, you should know that their pressures, most of the time, are out of love, care, and concern; and so the way you handle them, matter. You should know your purpose, have your goals laid out, and have a time frame to achieve them as backed up by God. You must also be clear on what you stand for and be firm about it. Then others would respect you for that.
When confronted with pressures, always try to remain calm. Do not be anxious for anything, as anxiety can lead to wrong decisions. More so, never base your decisions on what people suggest to you. Weigh them and evaluate them alongside your goals and purpose. By doing this, you can work on the valued ones and discard the unnecessary.
Very importantly, you must not panic or give in to worries because of pressures. Worries make you sorry at the end, as they only bring depression; possibly making you settle for less. It also keeps you blind to what God has in store for you, because you stay glued to your past or present situation.
At all times, aim to keep your hope alive and keep your emotions in check. Remember, whether you succeed or fail at any task is first dependent on how you handle it.
Remain Blessed!